Posted by journeysinward | Posted in Anxiety and Stress Hypnotherapy, Depression Hypnotherapy, Hypnotherapy | Posted on 17-01-2012-05-2008
The superstar couple is celebrating the birth of new daughter Blue Ivy Carter. This very private couple revealed in a new song, by rap mogul Jay-Z, an earlier miscarriage that the couple had. The new song named “Glory” features the crying of their new baby Blue Ivy. Some of the song lyrics are: “Last time, the miscarriage was so tragic,” “We was afraid you would disappear. But nah, baby, you magic.”“False alarms and false starts / all made better by the sound of your heart,” “All the pain over the last time / I prayed so hard it was the last time.” “The most amazing feeling I feel, words can’t describe what I’m feeling for real / Baby, I paint the sky blue, my greatest creation was you.
In an official announcement by the couple it was said that “Her birth was emotional and extremely peaceful, we are in heaven.”
It is great news that they brought a healthy baby to term but so many mothers who have one and maybe many miscarriages suffer such a private loss. In fact many people are afraid to tell anyone they are pregnant before the 3rd month, just in case. Our society seems to render miscarriage invisible, no one wants to talk about it. The first trimester is when a woman does the work of creating the baby. Every organ in the baby’s body is formed, and the mother can experience extreme fatigue and nausea. Women need to be supported through this vulnerable period where they were already planning and dreaming, talking to their fetus, and maybe even considering a name. After a loss it’s normal to feel shock, grief, depression, guilt, anger, and a sense of failure and vulnerability.
The days, weeks, and even months following a loss can be incredibly difficult and painful. If you are someone who has experienced a miscarriage, first know that it is not your fault, it can happen to anyone. Be open and honest with your partner, remember he is going through it too and might need your support as well. Men and women grieve differently, your husband may be holding his grief inside. There is no right or wrong way to deal with grief, you will need each other to find your own way. Allow yourself to feel the sadness, don’t try to get over it quickly. Allow yourself to experience the waves of grief as they come.
Most people want to say something comforting but don’t know what to say. Try not to take it personally if they say the wrong thing or nothing at all. Sharing your story will allow you to feel less alone and help you heal. You may be surprised who comes out and shares their story of miscarriage with you, that you never knew about. Miscarriage is such a common trauma, there is no reason to be alone with it.
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