Everyone wants and needs to feel loved. Having a significant person in your life to share things with, have fun with and lean on for support is important. If you have been unable to find this person, you may spend your life feeling alone and wondering why love has passed you by. If you feel this way, ask yourself an important question. Do your love yourself? Once you feel that you are an attractive, lovable person, you will start to act in a loving way toward others, and soon the love you are looking for will come to you.

You must also love others if you want to be loved yourself. If you are having trouble attracting love, learn to let love flow from within you instead of focusing on yourself and the attention that you might want to receive. You’ve probably heard that if you want a friend, you need to be a friend. This is also true of love. If you want to attract love, you must first love yourself. Once you are comfortable with who you are and you really like and love yourself, it will be easier for other people to be attracted to you and love you.

How can you attract the love you want and deserve? Do whatever it takes to experience yourself as lovable. The more you are okay with yourself, the more others are okay with you. Use affirmations to replace the old tapes you keep hearing from your past, things others have said that hurt you… parents, old relationships and such.  Instead come from a place of “I’m ok just as I am.” What will draw people to you is their sense that you are fully expressing all of who you are. Self-confidence draws people’s interest like nothing else. Focus on what works, instead of always thinking about what could be better. Self-respect, assurance, clarity about who you really are, will attract love to you.

Find out what matters to you, hold that vision. To attract love in your life it is important to follow your own dreams and that will give you personal satisfaction, so you can feel good about yourself. You might want to listen to our Attract Love MP3.

Each morning we wake up to our daily life. Most of our activities are on automatic pilot, such as brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. Automatic pilot is a trance state that can be very useful for what is considered the habitual activities of life & exercise needs to be one of these.

Our bodies need to exercise, it has been medically proven that we are emotionally more stable, physically more healthy and mentally far more alert if we do. The ideal solution is to review your lifestyle and attitude. Look for ways you can incorporate exercise as part of your everyday life. Use the stairs instead of the elevator, walk when you can, look for opportunities and interests that involve physical exercise. The important thing is that whatever you do, it is easily adapted into your life. Take some time each day just for yourself, and exercise during this time, even if it’s just a 15 min. walk around the neighborhood.

When you start to talk yourself out of exercising, a negative affirmation is being repeated in your mind. An affirmation that says “I can’t do it, I don’t have time.” So if a negative affirmation works, why can’t a positive one? Repeating an affirmation in your mind will remind you of your desire to be healthier and help you become more consciously and subconsciously aware of your healthy lifestyle goals. Strive to repeat healthy lifestyle affirmations to yourself several times each day. Because affirmations actually reprogram patterns and they change the way you think and feel about things.

Tell yourself positive affirmations like:

“The more often I choose to exercise, the better I’ll feel, both physically and mentally.”

“ I really enjoy the exercise program I have chosen for myself.”

“ I have enough time in my day to do my exercise program because it is important to me.”

Visualize yourself getting “In the Zone” whether that means putting on your exercise outfit or turning on some aerobic music you like that makes you want to move.

You might want to try our Exercise Motivation MP3

Stacy Ferguson, better known as Fergie is an American singer, songwriter, rapper, fashion designer and actress as well as the lead singer of the Black Eyed Peas. Previously she had performed with a female trio called Wild Orchid. While performing with Wild Orchid, Ferguson developed an addiction to crystal methamphetamine which followed her after she left the group in 2001.

Ferguson felt that her addiction to drugs had a lot to do with being a child actor and having learned to suppress her feelings at an early age. When she was 17 she found fame through the Wild Orchids. But when the band tanked, she turned to Ecstasy and eventually crystal meth. She has admitted that as a teenager, she became addicted to illegal drugs in an attempt to escape her troubles. She loved Ecstasy and found her outlet in the underground club scene and raves.

Fergie has been clean for more than ten years, but is only now revealing that her pre-fame drug addiction left her paranoid and delusional. Unlike other drugs, methamphetamine’s can directly cause a permanent psychosis, the technical term for a delusion or a hallucination. The paranoid delusions of a drug user and the experience of a person with mental health issues barely differ.

Fergie said “I had about 20 different conspiracy theories. I painted the windows in my apartment black so they couldn’t see in,” she thought the FBI was after her during her brief addiction to methamphetamine’s around 2001.

She was down to 90 lbs. and was doing meth day and night and had run out of money. she said. “I was hearing voices. I thought people were after me. I wasn’t talking to any of my friends or family.” She said “It ruins you and it’s important to talk about it because it’s a very, very hard thing to stop.”

Ferguson has stated in several interviews that she enlisted the help of a hypnotherapist to help her overcome her crystal meth addiction and to relax. She is an avid user of hypnotherapy and now she admits that she only indulges in a glass of wine here and there.

Maybe you had an injury that required a prescription painkiller, or maybe a friend convinced you to try cocaine or crystal meth “just once” for fun. You may have wanted to fit in so much with your friends, that you gave in and tried it, thinking you would have the power to say no the next time. But then you tried it just once more and one more time after that and before you knew it, you were an addict .Now you’re faced with a very real problem. How do you free yourself from this addiction before it ruins your life? You know it will but you don’t know where to turn.   Perhaps you have watched others lose their physical well being and perhaps even die and you are now realizing that this could happen to you! You know it is time to stop and you want to, what do you do?

Fergie had to make a decision just as you do if you are reading this and know that drugs are a problem for you. You can choose to be free from drugs and you can do it easily and comfortably through hypnosis. Hypnosis may not be the only treatment you need but it certainly will help make the process easier and by using our drug addiction hypnosis MP3 and our anxiety and Stress management MP3 or some of the other MP3 downloads on this site you can be well on your way to more self respect and a positive attitude towards life!

~Mariah

It doesn’t take Memorial Day to bring up grief and loss for someone who has lost a loved one. The loss of a loved one is the most difficult thing most people ever experience. It is extremely painful to be left with the void and emptiness that was once filled with a loving relationship.  Memorial Day certainly brings it to the forefront and others may remember your loss on that day and perhaps give you a call, but for one who is grieving it is a process that takes on a life of its own. Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving. Everyone grieves differently, grieving is a personal and highly individual experience.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve but there are healthy ways to cope with the pain. You can get through it! Writing all your feelings in a journal, can be extremely helpful to just let it all out! Keep a journal by your bed and write at night before you go to sleep, just let your mind go and write whatever you are hearing in your head without censoring or judging. It is called stream of consciousness writing and it can be very cathartic. Write a letter to your loved one as if they will be able to receive it. Tell them about what has been going on in your life, feel their presence. Listen for their voice and imagine what they would say. Allow yourself to feel a comfort in knowing that, they are just on the other side of the veil that we cannot see, draw on your faith at this time. It’s ok to tell them everything you are feeling, as you are feeling so many mixed emotions and it is good for you to let these emotions out on paper. If you are angry at them for leaving you or angry at yourself for not doing or saying more; write it all down. Write about your loneliness and deep sadness, you can write anything you want now that perhaps you couldn’t tell them before. This is part of the healing process that will eventually help you to find peace and acceptance.

Perhaps even try your hand at poetry, remembering the wonderful things about your loved one. After my mother died I wrote quite a bit of poetry, it felt as if it were just being channeled through me. I was amazed at what I wrote!

The emotions you experience can range from anger and anxiety to sadness, emptiness, denial and fear.

There are five stages of grief:

• Denial- when you say, “This can’t be happening to me.”
• Anger- “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
• Bargaining-“Make this not happen, and in return I will do anything”
• Depression- “I’m too sad to do anything.”
• And finally Acceptance-you are at peace with what happened.

You do not have to go through each stage in order to heal. You don’t need to experience them in an exact, sequential order, so don’t worry about what you “should” be feeling or which stage you’re “supposed” to be in. There will be ups and downs.

The single most important factor in healing from loss is having the support of other people. Sharing your loss makes the burden of grief easier to carry. Wherever the support comes from, accept it and do not grieve alone. Connecting to others will help you heal.

When you’re grieving, it’s more important than ever to take care of yourself. The stress of a major loss can quickly deplete your energy and emotional reserves. Looking after your physical and emotional needs will help you get through this difficult time.

You will begin to accept what has happened and know that there is a greater purpose in the world and a reason for everything. Freedom from grief comes when you accept those things in your life that you have no power to change.

Whatever your grief experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to unfold naturally. It may seem like this is impossible and that life will never feel good again, but this is not the case. It is possible for your loved one to live on in your heart and your memories, and you can heal from grief and begin to live life more fully again.  Listening to this hypnotherapy MP3 can be extremely helpful at a time when you feel like you need support but just don’t have the energy to even get out of bed.

~ Mariah Shipp